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When a friend pushes you away


When someone’s going through a tough time, they can act angry or withdrawn. If you try to help, they might push you away.

Try not to take it personally

Chances are they’d appreciate some support but might not be ready to accept it.Let them know you are there to talk. Sometimes just knowing that someone’s there can be help enough.

It’s not your fault

If you try to help someone and they’re not accepting it, it’s not your fault.You can’t force anyone to take your help. This may be hard to deal with, especially if they don’t acknowledge your effort to help.

Have patience

Chances are they don’t know how to handle whatever’s bothering them.It will definitely take patience. This is the time they need your support most. 

You don’t need to take abuse

Sometimes, while trying to help someone, they can become very angry.They might even be verbally abusive towards you.While you may want to be there for them, that doesn’t mean you need to accept abuse.

Keep an open line of communication

If someone’s pushing you away when you’re trying to help, it can be very frustrating.Stay calm and keep an open line of communication.

Looking after yourself

Helping somebody may mean you’re giving up on some of your needs.Remember to look after yourself too. You may need time out for yourself.If you’re experiencing stress, make sure you have somebody to talk to.

Worried about someone’s safety?

If you’re concerned about a friend’s safety, be sure to talk to someone you trust like a friend, family member or a professional. Talk to your friend first and let them know you’re worried.If they wanted you could always accompany them to see somebody.In an emergency you can speak to the Gardaí (dial 999 in Ireland).

If you would like professional support with anything you are going through turn2me provides free, confidential online supports for young people and adults in the Republic of Ireland.

  • Peer support – A free and safe space where you can find and give support by connecting with other people who have been through similar experiences.
  • Group support -Facilitated by a mental health professional, support groups are a safe space to connect with others and share solutions and coping strategies on a variety of mental health topics.
  • Counselling – Support for whatever you are going through, this is a safe space to talk with a professional counsellor to help you understand your feelings and work together to develop the tools you need to get through tough times.