Never before have so many been under house arrest!
Some of us have a very positive outlook on the situation. Viewing it as a time to foster even closer relationships with our immediate family, which of course is a wholesome and positive attitude. But what about the legions of parents who are struggling with the situation?
What is wrong with my family?
This leaves a huge portion of the population asking themselves “what is wrong with my family”? Well the answer to that is NOTHING.
I have no doubt that a lot of families enjoy such fulfilling and rewarding pastimes but even these families must have their less civilised moments. Some more than others.
Enforced family time
What it does is draw attention to is how little time some teenagers want to spend with their parents and the rest of the family. Which leaves parents all over Ireland if not the world feeling inadequate.
Do not buy into the myth!
We all know the reality is probably a frazzled mother in the kitchen trying to keep everything warm while dealing with the different demands of various family members, grandparents complaining that their grandchildren are too noisy and spoiled, teenagers refusing to put their phone down and at least one member of the family being the worse for wear thanks to one too many pre dinner drinks. Sound familiar?
These feelings are normal
There are quite a few parents at the moment who are finding it difficult and may even have moments of not even really liking their children very much at times, especially their teenage children. It doesn’t mean they don’t love them or that there isn’t anything they wouldn’t do to protect them but just occasionally they find it difficult to actually like them and you can be absolutely sure that this feeling is reciprocated!
Make a list
Try to think of an activity that they might enjoy that doesn’t involve younger brothers and sisters as this is often the bug bear. Maybe something like watching something of their choice on Netflix when the younger ones have gone to bed or showing them how to cook their favourite meal.
Most importantly remember DO NOT TAKE THIS PERSONALLY I think my teenage self would have been investigating “how to murder your family and get away with it” under these circumstances.
If you would like professional support with anything you are going through turn2me provides free, confidential online supports for young people and adults in the Republic of Ireland.
- Peer support - A free and safe space where you can find and give support by connecting with other people who have been through similar experiences.
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- Counselling - Support for whatever you are going through, this is a safe space to talk with a professional counsellor to help you understand your feelings and work together to develop the tools you need to get through tough times.